A thoughtful, down-to-earth, contemporary guide to help partners identify and address relationship-killing behaviour patterns in their own lives

'The man who coaches husbands on how to avoid divorce' The New York Times 'One husband's confession you might be tempted to hand to your other half next time he does something infuriating' Daily Mail 'Could genuinely help save a few rocky marriages' Literary Review One night during his divorce, after one too many vodkas and a phone-in-therapist's advice to 'journal his feelings,' Matthew Fray started a blog. As he tried to piece together how his ex-wife went from adoring to angry he realised that even though he was a decent guy, he was kind of a bad husband. From the raw, uncomfortable and darkly humorous stories he shared about the lessons he's learned from his failed marriage comes this strangely hopeful guide to saving relationships. This is How Your Marriage Ends offers immediately actionable advice to help readers identify toxic behaviour patterns in their own lives, and break them out of the cycles of dysfunction that ruin relationships. This is a must-read for people in any stage of a relationship, whether it's near the beginning or nearing the end. Good people can be bad partners - here's how to ensure that isn't you.

"Fray's insight is to realise that the substance of the dispute isn't that important - it was his reaction to his ex-wife's reaction to the dirty dishes that, over time, hollowed out their marriage ... Makes me want to try harder in future" - The Times

"One husband's confession you might be tempted to hand to your other half next time he does something infuriating" - Daily Mail

"Fray's disarming personality and the sharing of his own story make people feel like they're not being judged ... His stark message: Don't end up like me" - The New York Times

"The nuggets of good sense in this book could genuinely help save a few rocky marriages" - Literary Review

"A fascinating book ... definitely worth a read" - Woman's Own

"Hard-hitting" - Telegraph

"Shares how the small things have big repercussions" - Grazia

"Hugely resonant" - Metro

"It's hard to quibble with Fray's central message - that men could learn to "suck less" at marriage by becoming more attentive to their partners' feelings" - Financial Times