A psychosexual relationship between a rabbi and the man devoted to him goes off the rails in this explosive novel, marking the first major UK publication of a cult writer.

To the untrained eye, the rabbi is far from desirable. He is lofty and unkempt, he is ageing and his congregation is ever diminishing. But to one man, he is the object of obsession. Our narrator adores the rabbi and worships the universe between his legs. But so too does he bristle at being relegated to the peripheries of the rabbi's life. When they're apart, he manically contemplates every element of the rabbi's being: his absent husband; his first (and only) wife and child, both now deceased; his unstable, yet alluring, adopted son. Until, in a bid to help sustain their relationship, our narrator embarks on an increasingly urgent quest to better understand his mercurial lover - one which threatens to upturn the lives of both men. Lavish and lascivious, My Lover, the Rabbi is an exuberant exploration of devotion and desire, as well as a careening Catherine wheel of a novel about queer family-making, one which is attuned to the mysterious constellations and patterns that shape our lives.

"Whatever his subject favorites include porn, punctuation and the poetry of Frank O'Hara the goal is always to jigger logic and language free of its moorings... His great and singular appeal is this fealty to his own desire and imagination... Figuring it out, after all, is a life sentence" - The New York Times

"Much anticipated... Fans of Garth Greenwell will delight in Koestenbaum's demonstration of the sublime against corporeal obsession, play, need, humiliation, grief, desire, camp, refusal to engage in any heteronormative norms" - Electric Lit