If there is one thing we know about men and sex it is that men are always in the mood. Any time, any place. Right?

Wrong.

Men’s sexual desire has long been depicted as high, simple, and unwavering. But the new research around men’s desire tells us this is far from true; and that good sex and relationships are suffering from these long-held misconceptions. In Not Always in the Mood: The New Science on Men, Sex, and Relationships sex researcher and relationship therapist Sarah Hunter Murray presents a lively, timely, and critical exploration of the newest, most surprising science on men and sex, shattering myths about men’s sexuality and helping today’s couples connect more deeply and authentically than ever before.

One-by-one, Murray examines the most detrimental, deep-held beliefs we as a society promote around men and their desire, and dive into how they affect our intimate relationships daily – and what to do about it. Do men actually crave and enjoy sex more than women? Do men “do the wanting” and prefer the chase? Where do they stand on sexual rejection? What’s the deal with porn? Answering these questions and more, this is a book for modern women and men alike. Moving beyond typical “here’s what he likes” sexual tips, the book empowers readers and offers a completely new perspective on sexuality that will validate men’s experiences and help their partners to a greater understanding of the psychology and emotions surrounding them.

"From Elizabeth Bernstein 2/2/2019 article on "Debunking the Myths About Male Sexuality" - Long-held stereotypes contend they're always interested in sex; happiest being the pursuer; focused on the physical rather than the emotional connection. If we discuss male sexuality at all, we tend to focus on the darker, toxic side "the entitlement and aggression increasingly exposed by the
#MeToo movement. But a new book coming out Feb. 12, "Not Always in the Mood: The New Science of Men, Sex, and Relationships" by Sarah Hunter Murray, debunks a number of commonly held myths about male sexuality. It explores how a man's desire fluctuates, why most men are eager to please their partner, and how sex "or the lack of it" affects men emotionally." - The Wall Street Journal

"In her excellent book, Dr. Murray shares the latest research findings in the field which is good news for all men and women who want to feel less stress and worry about sex. . . . Her book goes a long way in helping us all have a more relaxed, joyful, and passionate love life." - The Good Men Project