Книга A Little Give: the unsung, unseen, undone work of women
Featured in Stylist’s ‘Can’t Miss’ Books of 2023
Sometimes I think that carrying — other people, the continuity of history, generational identity, the emotional load of the everyday — is the main thing that women do.
In Marina Benjamin’s new set of interlinked essays, she turns her astute eye to the tasks once termed ‘women’s work’. From cooking and cleaning to caring for an ageing relative, A Little Give depicts domestic life anew: as a site of paradox and conflict, but also of solace and profound meaning. Here, productivity sits alongside self-erasure, resentment with tenderness, and the animal self is never far away, perpetually threatening to break through.
Drawing on the work of figures such as Natalia Ginzburg, Paula Rego, and Virginia Woolf, Benjamin writes with fierce candour of the struggle to overwrite the gender conditioning that pulls her back into ‘the mud-world of pre-feminism’ even as she attempts to haul herself out. From her upbringing as the child of immigrants with fixed traditional values, to looking after her mother and seeing her teenager move out of home, she examines her relationships with family, community, her body, even language itself. Ultimately, she shows that a woman’s true work may lie at the heart of her humanity, in the pursuit both of transformation and of deep acceptance.
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‘Marina Benjamin can take the everyday … and transform it into deeply affecting prose.’
" - Stylist"
‘Marina Benjamin writes with a frankness, depth and wisdom…In A Little Give, she turns her exacting philosopher’s mind, and opens her capacious heart to, her own life … [an] erudite and thought-provoking book … A Little Give is a memoir, but it can also be read as a manifesto for living in greater ease with change and decay, which is metamorphosis, which is life itself.’
" - The Spectator"
‘A Little Give is one of those books that reorients our sense of how society is ordered. Its interlinked pieces take another look at those human tasks traditionally designated as “women’s work” and recasts them as profound and essential acts of labour and love.’
" - The Australian"
‘We all know the existential funk that housework can incite, women more so than men as they have traditionally carried the load. Not to mention the mixed emotions that go with caring for others. Marina Benjamin ruminates on the historical and societal pressures, constraints and value of this work through the lens of her own Iraqi-Jewish family — her dynamic, frustrated mother who drummed into her that “women were put on this planet to please” and her creative father who didn’t question that being looked after was his due. No simple solutions are offered. Instead, she rewardingly riffs on the visceral push and pull of this work.’
" - The Sydney Morning Herald"
‘[An] exquisite book … Benjamin’s essays investigate the social and philosophical dimensions of housework, tracing the fine filaments that bind women to a system of gender inequality … It zigzags between memory, discovery and reflection, taking the reader to the heart of the essay form. It is a journeying style of writing that constantly drives at its ideas without needing to be sure of their endpoints; it expects a question, not an answer.’
" - The Conversation"
‘Energetic and thought-provoking.’
" - ArtsHub"
‘It’s a book you can sink into and return to, for the wisdom of its reflection and the beauty of its sentences.’
" - InDaily"
‘Benjamin's overriding mission … is to render the invisible visible … As I read A Little Give, my thoughts kept returning to the performance art projects carried out by Mierle Laderman Ukeles throughout the 1970s. In one, she shook hands with 8,500 sanitation workers, thanking them for “keeping New York City alive”. In another, she washed the steps at the entrance to the Wadsworth Atheneum museum in Hartford, Connecticut, rendering visible the work of low-paid custodial staff. Her point was that maintenance is undervalued. Benjamin's thoughtful book demonstrates the many ways in which it still is.’
" - The Canberra Times"
‘Stunning … I inhaled this book.’
" - The Shift podcast"
‘[A] warm, engaging work, no matter the reader's gender.’
" - Red Tape"
‘Elegant and elegiac.’
" - workingmum.co.uk"
‘Personal and lyrical.’
" - The Irish Times"
‘Editor, journalist, and memoirist Benjamin meditates on feminism, family, and women’s work in a series of linked essays that cohere into a thoughtful reflection on the trajectory of her life … An intimate and powerfully written look at women’s lives.’
" - Kirkus Reviews"
‘This book separates itself from the others in its specific concentration on the domestic work of women … Especially well-suited for women seeking validation regarding the daily labours of love, or those seeking another source of political writing about the division of labour following Eve Rodsky’s Fair Play. Ideal for libraries that house Benjamin’s first two installments, as well as those where titles regarding women’s rights and injustices are needed.’
" - Library Journal"
Praise for Insomnia:
‘A darkly thrilling beauty of a book … Benjamin’s talent is Arachne-like. The materials she integrates are eclectic, and the resulting constructed web of her thoughts is architecturally robust and resplendent with dazzling prose.’
" - Australian Book Review"
Praise for Insomnia:
‘A short, ludic book about long white nights ... [Benjamin] writes feelingly about the frustrations of being awake when you don’t want to be ... Her moans about her futile thought-loops alternate with flattering descriptions of her radiant nocturnal consciousness.’
" - The New Yorker"
Praise for The Middlepause:
‘Lucid and sophisticated … A restrained but wonderful guide to the convulsive changes of 50 and over … This is a book that yields valuable insights on almost every page.’
" - The Guardian